The Lure of Black Friday and Cyber Monday

I’m gonna guess I’m not the only one who struggled with Black Friday this year, but it’s a first for me.

Since I avoid crowds, I was never one to go out on Black Friday, back when crowds stormed stores starting at midnight. I much prefer to sleep at night. Over time, it’s become our habit to buy most of our Christmas gifts online.

But this year, I kept finding things I wanted for me. I was inundated with sale-announcing emails, and I actually looked at all of them, and I even left tabs open on my browser all weekend with things I was thinking about buying.

That’s not like me. And all of a sudden on Cyber Monday I thought, “What are you doing??” And I closed every tab without buying a single thing.

I don’t need anything. I already have more fabric than I can use in a lifetime. I have more clothes than I need, especially given my hermit tendencies. But that’s the logical side of my brain talking. The other side was completely sucked in by all those Black Friday and Cyber Monday sales, at least for a few days.

I guess that shows that even someone who’s very committed to keeping down the clutter can fall prey to a good copywriter….or dozens of them!

The Plague of Fast Fashion

It saddens me to think that young people (maybe you’re one of them) have zero experience with high-quality fashion. Fast fashion has been around long enough now that many young people are only familiar with clothes that look funny after the first wash. They’ve known nothing but shirts that spring tiny holes in them fairly soon after wearing, or skirts or slacks that quickly pill in the lap and thigh areas.

But this used to be unheard of. Our parents and grandparents grew up with quality clothes made out of sturdy fabrics, and they were taught to take care of their clothes, because unless they were wealthy, they didn’t have too many. Now people have closets-full, and Instagram influencers make their living by persuading people that once you’ve worn something, you should move on to the next new thing, which they happen to be wearing today and that you can buy through their links.

So what happens to all those discarded clothes that either quickly went out of style, or have an odd shape or shade from being washed? Well, this article includes stunning photos of where your old clothes go.

What a waste! I’m glad to know that some of these cheap fabrics are being recycled into insulation, but it would be better if they had never wound up there in the first place. Without fast fashion, there would be no piles of unwanted clothing. They would either stay in our closets or be worn by someone who found them in a thrift shop. And they would hold up for a long time, and then they could be turned into cleaning rags.

Instead of closets overcluttered with fast fashion, we’d have closets containing fewer garments of much higher quality that we’re able to wear often. That’s why the closets in old houses are so small. People didn’t have a lot of clothes clutter; they had far fewer clothes of much higher quality. I’d like to see the world head back in that direction.

Clutter and Different Generations: Today’s Young Adults

Today’s young adult generation seems to have far less clutter than their parents or grandparents have (or had). I think there are a couple of reasons for this.

First off, they’re not faced with the level of temptation that my generation was when it comes to buying things. Many of today’s young people have no experience of wearing well-made clothes. They’ve grown up with poorly made clothes, cut from skimpy cloth. They see clothing as almost disposable. My children buy cheap clothes for their children because they’re readily available, and cheap in price as well as in quality. They’re too busy to search for high-quality clothes for their kids, and they can’t really afford designer kiddie clothes.

As for furniture, they’d just as soon buy a few cheap pieces from Target or IKEA and be done with it until it breaks. They have no interest in the solid oak furniture we have. Just the other day, I saw a 1980s entertainment center on the front lawn of an apartment building with a “Free” sign on it. It had stained glass windows and was made of oak; I remember when those were popular, and I’d guess the original owner paid several hundred dollars, maybe even a thousand, for it. But today, no one wants it.

Second, malls are dying, and even free-standing stores are disappearing. Everyone blames online shopping, and there’s no doubt that it has made a big dent. But I think the loss of the enjoyable shopping experience also bears some blame, and then there’s a third factor: these days, many adults are literally addicted to their smartphones. They don’t have time to go shopping, and they don’t see the need to spend money on lots of store purchases besides food and personal items.

If they need anything, they can buy it online, but they prefer to spend their money on experiences that they can document on social media. They’re too busy taking photos of their latest restaurant meal or vacation experience to go shopping. As a result, they don’t collect anywhere near as much “stuff” as their parents or grandparents did.

In addition, many of them can’t afford a house because of the huge disparity between housing costs and income in many places. Previous generations were able to afford a house when they were fairly young, giving them that much more time to fill up every nook and cranny. But many of today’s young adults live in condos or apartments; some still live with their parents. Also, quite a few of them have to move frequently for their careers, so they don’t want a lot of stuff weighing them down.

For those reasons, most of them probably won’t have the problems with clutter than many of their elders have. That’s wonderful, but that also makes it more likely that they will be completely mystified by our huge collections of stuff. And if we don’t go through it all and get rid of what we no longer need before we die, they’re not going to be very happy to do it for us after we’re gone.

An Overfilled Closet = Danger

So I let my closet get a little out of control. It’s not a very big closet, so I should know not to put too much in it. But it’s so easy to just push things to one side when you add a new purchase or two.

Do that a few times over the course of a long, cold winter, in a house that apparently doesn’t have enough insulation in the walls, and you discover this:

Mold….yuck!


Fortunately, after a little mold remediation, my closet is now clean, and I’ve learned a lesson: don’t keep more clothes than your closet should hold! Now I get to pay the dry cleaners to de-funk one of my favorite dresses, the one that was up against the wall.