My Decluttering Weak Area

I’ve done really well at keeping the clutter from coming back since our big downsizing, except for one area: my sewing habit.

I actually have two designated sewing spots in my house: one upstairs and one downstairs. I’m beginning to realize that amount of stuff in each area is expanding. I just don’t seem to be able to pass up great deals on fabric, buttons, zippers, etc. when I go to garage sales, estate sales, and destashing sales (where quilters sell fabric from their stash that they don’t need anymore.)

Not that any of these things take up a lot of room on their own, but collectively, well……let’s just say my plastic storage boxes are full up and I find myself thinking about buying more of them. But I won’t let myself go there. I’m going to have to do some destashing of my own and reduce the amount of stuff I’m hanging on to in hopes of using it for future projects.

The challenge for people who sew is that we love fabric and sewing supplies, and can easily think of many different ways to use these things. We just don’t have enough time. Or, as I saw recently on Pinterest: “I have so much fabric because I shop a lot faster than I can sew.”

Decluttering Mom for Mother’s Day

Mother’s Day is this Sunday in the U.S., and though it’s been a tradition for years to inundate Mom with all sorts of gifts, from perfume to clothes to housewares to stationery……don’t do it!

If your mom lives with lots of clutter, the last thing she needs is more of it. And if she doesn’t live with clutter, it’s logical that she probably doesn’t want to clutter up her place with things she doesn’t need but feels she should keep because they’re from her kids.

So what should you give your mom for Mother’s Day?

Speaking as the mom of several adults, I think I vouch for most moms when I say we’d just like to hear from you. Seeing you would be even better! You don’t have to give us lace hankies, or cutesy dishtowels with clever sayings on them. We prefer your presence over your presents.

But if you can’t be with us on Mother’s Day, and you feel you must give us a gift, consider the options that are either temporary or experiences:

  • Cut flowers are beautiful. We can enjoy them for a few weeks until they wilt. We’ll always remember that they came from you.
  • Flowering annual plants are wonderful; they are so pretty and last all summer, making our porches and balconies look lovely.
  • A sweet treat is always appreciated; there are many sugar-free and gluten-free goodies available if your mom is diabetic or has specific dietary requirements.
  • Gift cards are always nice, and the gift of an experience is even better, like tickets to a concert, or a few hours at a spa.

The very best gift, of course, would be an experience with you. No clutter, just joy!

Clutter and Different Generations: Today’s Young Adults

Today’s young adult generation seems to have far less clutter than their parents or grandparents have (or had). I think there are a couple of reasons for this.

First off, they’re not faced with the level of temptation that my generation was when it comes to buying things. Many of today’s young people have no experience of wearing well-made clothes. They’ve grown up with poorly made clothes, cut from skimpy cloth. They see clothing as almost disposable. My children buy cheap clothes for their children because they’re readily available, and cheap in price as well as in quality. They’re too busy to search for high-quality clothes for their kids, and they can’t really afford designer kiddie clothes.

As for furniture, they’d just as soon buy a few cheap pieces from Target or IKEA and be done with it until it breaks. They have no interest in the solid oak furniture we have. Just the other day, I saw a 1980s entertainment center on the front lawn of an apartment building with a “Free” sign on it. It had stained glass windows and was made of oak; I remember when those were popular, and I’d guess the original owner paid several hundred dollars, maybe even a thousand, for it. But today, no one wants it.

Second, malls are dying, and even free-standing stores are disappearing. Everyone blames online shopping, and there’s no doubt that it has made a big dent. But I think the loss of the enjoyable shopping experience also bears some blame, and then there’s a third factor: these days, many adults are literally addicted to their smartphones. They don’t have time to go shopping, and they don’t see the need to spend money on lots of store purchases besides food and personal items.

If they need anything, they can buy it online, but they prefer to spend their money on experiences that they can document on social media. They’re too busy taking photos of their latest restaurant meal or vacation experience to go shopping. As a result, they don’t collect anywhere near as much “stuff” as their parents or grandparents did.

In addition, many of them can’t afford a house because of the huge disparity between housing costs and income in many places. Previous generations were able to afford a house when they were fairly young, giving them that much more time to fill up every nook and cranny. But many of today’s young adults live in condos or apartments; some still live with their parents. Also, quite a few of them have to move frequently for their careers, so they don’t want a lot of stuff weighing them down.

For those reasons, most of them probably won’t have the problems with clutter than many of their elders have. That’s wonderful, but that also makes it more likely that they will be completely mystified by our huge collections of stuff. And if we don’t go through it all and get rid of what we no longer need before we die, they’re not going to be very happy to do it for us after we’re gone.

Clutter and Different Generations: Baby Boomers and Their Parents

I notice that today’s young people don’t seem to keep as much stuff as my generation has kept, and certainly not as much as their grandparents kept. I think there are several reasons for this.

I was born at the end of the baby boom, so I had parents who were born during the Great Depression. They were raised with relatively little in terms of material goods, and by parents who were poor. My maternal grandfather lost everything in the stock market crash of 1929, while my paternal grandmother raised a large family as a teenage mom whose husband left soon after their youngest child was born. As a result, these people valued…no, treasured…every item they owned, and particularly anything that could possibly be useful, right down to pieces of string.

Since they lived with very little income, they learned to stretch everything as far as possible, and to keep anything on which they had spent their hard-earned income. Even if they no longer needed something, they kept it because “Someone else might need it someday. What if we have another depression?” That’s what my parents grew up hearing and seeing. As a result, I was raised to waste nothing and keep everything.

But that’s not all. Looking back, I realize that I grew up during the golden age of merchandising. The quality of the clothes, housewares, and other products we bought during the 1960s to 1980s was extremely high and also very appealing. I grew up in the Chicago area, so I cut my shopping teeth on Marshall Field’s flagship store downtown, where there were 13 floors of incredible goods, all waiting to be wrapped in tissue by the friendly Field’s employees and placed neatly in forest green Field’s bags or boxes.

My love of fabric began when my grandmother took me shopping at Field’s fabric department, where she bought me my first pattern (clothes for my Barbie doll) and led me up and down rows of gorgeous fabric. Gram could not leave Field’s without a large stack of green boxes. When she wasn’t up for a trip downtown, she would call Field’s on the phone and request something she saw in one of their ads in her morning Chicago Tribune. The next day, the big green truck pulled up and delivered Gram’s new dress, or bedspread, or throw pillows. They were always sturdy and beautiful, qualities which she had come to expect from Marshall Field’s goods.

By the time I became a teenager, we had a new shopping option in our area: Woodfield Mall. Billed back then as the world’s largest indoor shopping mall, it boasted all of the major anchors of the 1970s (J.C. Penney, Sears, and of course, Marshall Field’s). You could spend the entire day there and find an amazing variety of fashionable and well-made clothes, shoes and home goods (mostly made in the U.S.), and also visit many specialty shops that made your shopping experience a lot of fun. All of the stores were full of tempting buys.

Then I got married and we bought a house. It wasn’t hard to fill a big, empty house with furniture, window treatments, and carpeting, not to mention sheets and towels. By now we had Marshall’s and T.J. Maxx, where I could find the same high-quality items sold at the mall, but at discounted prices. Back then, sheets and towels were designed for eye appeal, and before long, our linen closet was overflowing. (My family used many of those items for twenty years; that’s how well-made they were.)

For my generation, shopping was a pleasant experience that eventually became a pastime. No wonder we have so much stuff! Faced with the poor quality of many goods since most of our manufacturing went to the Far East, and companies became focused on how much profit they could make with lower-quality goods, many of us have kept our high-quality goods. It’s hard to let go of something when you know it will be impossible to replace it in the future with something of similar quality. No wonder many Baby Boomers and their elderly parents still have so much stuff!

Next: why today’s young adults have so much less clutter than older generations do.